A thousand years ago, every single person had the same purpose in life: to delight a higher being (commonly called God, or the Universe, or Allah, or …). So that was the goal – easy. However, through questioning the belief system and the rise of a new religion called individual-humanism, this higher being was killed, ask Nietzsche about that. Now, let’s get started on finding your own purpose in life in today’s world.
At this moment, you probably wonder about a minimum of two things. “What is the purpose in life?” will be the first one, while the second one might be “How the hell is the answer to this going to fit in a blog post?” Then there might be a third one, which is “Why do I feel this chaos inside of me?”
So, here is the answer to all three questions: it is easy, but it requires you to structure your mind first. In other words, there are a few things you have to know in order to determine where to aim at exactly. To decide where you are going, you must have a clear picture of where you are at this moment. I will now give you the knowledge you need to understand what I am going to tell you at the end of this post.
Let’s talk hormones.
- The life of every animal revolves around one thing: dopamine. This “Happiness Hormone” is the reason for EVERYTHING we do. Good food gives us dopamine, so does playing games, having sex, socializing or doing other things we love. We are addicted to dopamine, and the more we get, the more satisfied we feel in that specific situation. Drugs like cocaine, porn or alcohol deliver exactly that, tons of dopamine. The thing with drugs is that if your brain gets showered with a non-physiological amount of dopamine. It shuts down some of its dopamine receptors to protect itself, which means that next time you will need a higher dose to reach the same level of pleasure. That is where addiction starts. That is why quitting an addictive behaviour feels like a depression. You get a sound dopamine level by living healthily, eating less saturated fats and sugar, consuming more proteins, doing regular exercise and listening to good music.
- There is another hormone, let’s call it “Fulfilment Hormone” or just serotonin. This hormone generates a feeling of well-being. Comparing dopamine to serotonin is like comparing Hugh Hefner to Buddha. The thing you should pursue is serotonin. Boosting your serotonin level is done by eating healthily and doing regular exercise too. Additionally, you need sunlight or at least bright light and you also might ask your friends for massages and try meditation. In life, what we are really searching for is not being happy, but being fulfilled. Sorry, John Lennon.
Let me combine these two points into two rules.
- Successful people focus on serotonin, unsuccessful people focus on dopamine. Successful people can delay their dopamine kick on account of a higher goal; unsuccessful people don’t have any higher goal so, they take dopamine as soon they can get it. Improving is not easy, but it will take you places. Do things that give you serotonin, not dopamine. Are you afraid of taking a 5-meter jump into the water? Good, do it! Are you afraid to talk to that person you have a crush on? Go talk to your crush, then. Get out of your comfort zone at least once every day. You will not only be more fulfilled but also, you will get to know the real you.
- While following the pursuit of fulfilment, find out how to control your emotions. If you learn to get to the bottom of your emotions every time they come up, you will understand yourself better and you will learn how to control them. Thus, you will be able to stay rational in precarious moments and consequently execute the right action.
If a situation is bad for you, change it, if you cannot change it, leave it, and if you can’t even leave it, make the best of it. Like Bruce Lee said, “Be like water, my friend.”
I want you to do two things…
Read this post again right now, then sum it up in your own words. Start with drawing up a to-do list every day and fill it with all you must do this day. Try your best to do everything that is on your list. Furthermore, apply the two rules as often as you can.
After three days, think about the first thing you would like to change in this world. Write that down. After six days, ask yourself: “When I leave this world, what mark do I want to leave?” Write that down too. Then, combine both answers and find the meta-topic. For example, if it is rescuing the rain forest after the third day and reducing plastic waste after the sixth, this is your aim: help to heal our environment. Dedicate yourself to it! Everything you do from now on will be to achieve this goal. And that is your own purpose in life.
If after the seventh day you still can’t find your purpose in life, read my other posts and feel free to contact me!
By Florian Baumer – September 06, 2019